A lot of people love the show CALIFORNICATION and a lot of men have been particularly interested in this show because of its main character Hank Moody and his magnetism with hot women.

What is it that makes Hank Moody so irresistible to girls?

Why are girls chasing him all the time trying to get HIM into bed?

Well I watched the whole first season and let me tell you that you can learn a lot from this man.

The character of Hank Moody is built upon some very solid foundational attraction principles, that can be studied and replicated to produce the same type of wild sexual arousal and magnetic irresistible attraction in every woman you come in contact with.

Now despite having watched many different things that really intrigued me about Hank Moody, I think that the most important takeaway is his ability to remain under complete calm or at least seem to be in complete calm, completely relax and chill under any circumstance, and to not break the superior and self-amusing frame even under the most bizarre and extreme cases.

You can see this from the very start of the show. In season 1 episode 1 the first scene is Hank going to church.

You can see that the first thing that happens is that he drops his cigarette in the holy water.

That’s the first thing they show you, so what does this mean?
It means that this character is the bad boy, the asshole, he is showing a huge sign of I don’t give a fuck for any type of social convention, I don’t care about other people’s believes systems.

This is holy water right here, this is something sacred for a lot of people, so by doing this he is manifesting this rebellious side, he is communicating that he walks around acting like he doesn’t give a fuck.

This is already setting him apart from the majority of other men who are very conformist and are trying to play by the rules.

To be able to break the rules all the time, wherever you go, to just act under your intentions and be completely chill and relax, means that you are the boss, because if you were not the boss, you wouldn’t be able to be breaking the rules or social conventions, and when you did break them, you would be all paranoid, afraid, anxious and worried to death of what might go wrong, maybe some other alpha male is going to come and kill you.

Acting this way means by necessity that you are very confident and that you have courage, that you know that you are able to deal with whatever comes up as a result of your acts.

Then as he addresses god, he addresses him in his own unique way, through this superior and self-amusing subcommunications.

The way that he uses language: “ok big guy you and me”, is like he is positioning god at his level or even maybe even lower than him.

It indicates that his perceived status and level of entitlement is so high that he has no problem talking to god like any other person, he doesn’t change the way that he talks, even in this desperate times that he finds himself, where apparently nothing is really working for him, and his subcommunications don’t reflect that.

The tone that he uses, the way that he speaks, everything is screaming I’m a cool guy, I’m so fucking cool, and even under this extreme circumstances I’m still cool, relax, chill, sexual, and funny.

Now the nun or sister appears in the frame.

Now of course we know this is a TV show, so the nun ends up offering him a blow job, and this is something that is almost impossible to happen in real life, although it could, but that’s not the thing that I’m focused on, what I care about is how the character of Hank interacts with the nun.

Hank is like “oh I’m sorry sister, I was trying to have a little chat with your husband up there”, notice that little tease, he is teasing her. By the way teasing works because a tease is a statement that indicates that you are higher value and as such feel confident enough to be able to tell her something that might offend her because is a joke about her, is lowering her value, a little, but done playfully.

He is saying something that could be interpreted as something rude, but he is able to say this and get away with it, because he has eliminated all of his filters of insecurity, when a normal person says something like this or thinks about saying something like this, he probably has a ton of filters of insecurity firing at the same time, making him feel uncertain and this is subcommunicated, and the other persons picks up on this and reacts negatively to the tease or joke.

Hank on the other hand just speaks his mind freely, and he has also made that state that he is in, that super relaxed, chill, everything is ok, everything is a big joke, I’m fucking cool, I don’t give a fuck, his default state, he is always like this, his frame doesn’t break, he is not going to break and all of the sudden be like oh sorry and get all nervous and change the way he presents himself, his bad boy frame is incredibly solid. It doesn’t break. Ever.

As Hank is explaining himself to the nun he is cursing saying things like god damn or fuck up, to a nun, in church in front of god.

He is trying to be respectful, but he is just so used to expressing himself freely and so used to not giving a fuck, to thinking that he is entitle to be who he is fully, even if he is an asshole who curses all of the time, he owns it, so much that he cannot help it, by the way this is something that you can see very clearly in Gary Veynerchuck, and that authenticity is what causes women to become irresistibly attracted to Hank Moody.

Now this is also important, the nun, and again I know that this is a TV show and they are taking things to extreme fantasy levels, but the principles still apply in real life, the nun, offers him a blow job and the other girls in the show start offering him sex all of the time, because he acting in this way, makes them feel like they can take that sexual bitchy I want to fuck part of themselves and express it safely with him because they feel no downside.

This is something that I will talk about more in the future, because I’m seeing how this principle plays in my own life, not only with women but with everybody, people will only show you the part of themselves that you are ok with, whenever they feel that they will be judge by something they did or said or want to do, anything at all, if they feel that there will be any negative consequences to showing or exposing that part of themselves to you, then they will not show you that part of themselves to you.

And this doesn’t mean that they don’t have that part inside of them, it just means that YOU will not be able to see this part of them.

As you keep moving forward and start opening your mind and stop judging yourself and others and you become more authentic, what is going to happen is that other people around will also start to open up and will become more authentic with you, and then you will start to see this new sides of them that you were not able to see before.

So with women this means that as you judge them less, by judging you less, they will start to show you that sexual part of themselves, they will feel safe to be sexual around you and tell you all of their little secrets and of course be a lot more sexually forward with you, but while you keep judging they will not show you that crazy sexual part of them, you will only be shown the prude reserve side of them.

In this next scene he sleeps with a women that has a couple and then he has to run away.

The guy is going to kick his ass, and how does hank act?

He acts completely relaxed, chill, like he always acts, no matter what’s happening he is always going to act like this, nothing is going to break this frame that he has, and that’s also very important, because I can tell you that going through this type of experiences can be very stressful, unless you are that character already.

Life in general is always throwing you challenging situations and most people are already overwhelmed with their very simple life’s, they are not able to handle any more novelty, so they stay inside their comfort zones, to be able to live a life like Hank Moody, you have to be able to tolerate high levels of novelty and discomfort, you have to be able to remain relaxed and chill at all times.

He even teases him, the guy has a bat in his hand, and Hank is still able to tease the guy, that requires huge balls.

In the scene at 2:56

Girl: You are like this famous writer huh?

Hank: Hardly, more like a one hit wonder.

This is a technique a pick up technique, and it comes from knowing that women sometimes throw you these tests in the form of qualification questions.

By studying pickup you learn what qualification is, how it works, and how to use it.

Qualification is one of the attraction formulas in my program.

Hank understands this, the girl is trying to get him to qualify himself, so if he goes: “oh yes I’m a famous writer, I’ve wrote many books, I’m this, I’m that”, then he fails, but because he understands the game, he passes this test by NOT qualifying himself.

What you want is to never qualify yourself, in other words never try to impress anybody.

Also understand that in pick up you can use qualification actively to get women trying to impress you, for example a little very well-known qualification question is tell me something cool about you. So this is it for this blog.

As you could see I like to give the main principle behind what works, in this case the very advanced relaxation that Hank has as his default state.

That's first, but I also like to point out different little subtleties and also outer game techniques. I hope you enjoyed this.

And also check out this video where you are going to learn how to get real CONFIDENCE, part of CONFIDENCE is being able to remain completely relaxed in all situations but is also much greater than that. CONFIDENCE is where the money is at

Check out the video here

This is Gabe.

See you in the next one.