So I watched the first episode of Rick and Morty season 4 and I want to comment on what Morty goes through in this episode, because I think it provides a great example of what our egos tend to do in real life.

Our egos want to win, and the ego doesn’t really exist, the ego is just a conglomeration of thoughts.

The only way an ego can win is by telling itself the story that he is a winner.

So Morty wants to win.

Winning for him means being with Jessica.

Not now, not for a moment, but at the very end.

That’s how he wants his story to end. For him to win, at the end of his life he has to be with Jessica. Everything else doesn’t matter.

Your ego is doing the exact same thing, is thinking nonstop about who you are.

It wants to know who he is. And it wants to tell itself the story that he is a winner.

Are you a winner or a loser?

Depends on what story you are telling yourself.

It’s better to start recognizing the story just as that. A fucking story with no intrinsic value.

And to start paying attention to the present moment.

The more I pay attention to the present moment I realize that I keep telling myself a lot of stories, I’m looking for completion in the future, I’m trying to find meaning, I’m trying to win.

Winning is different for everybody.

Winning depends on whether the story you are telling yourself about you, makes you feel like a winner or not.

It doesn’t depend on anything external, external things can only be taken as symbols to try to justify your rationalizations about why you think you are winning or losing.

But there are a couple of things that most of us agree upon as winning, for example making tons of money is a form of winning, and this plays a huge role in the story about you.

If you are not making a lot of money then you tell to yourself that you suck, that you are a loser, if you are making a ton of money then all of the sudden you tell yourself fuck yeah I’m a winner look at all of that money in my bank account, and that makes you feel good, but is ego, and when you get your state up from something in the outside, you are going to forever be in perpetual fear of losing that thing that is making you tell yourself the story that you are a winner and then becoming a loser and then feeling like shit.

So it’s better to pay attention to whenever you are telling yourself stories.

You might think that it’s better to tell yourself good stories about yourself over negative stories, but in reality good or bad stories at the end turn into suffering.

For example telling yourself the story that you are a loser because you cannot get any girl to sleep with you might sound a lot worse than telling yourself the story that you are the greatest pick up artist in the world and that you can have any girl that you want.

But in reality both stories are equally destructive. If you have read the book The game by Neil Strauss then you know that at the beginning of the book Mystery the world’s greatest pick up artist at that time was trying to kill himself, so here he is a man that can pick up pretty much any girl he wants, and he is trying to end his live.

I’m not enlightened, so I have an ego, I know how it feels to become identify with stories about how cool or not cool I am. I have to constantly be monitoring my thoughts, I have to keep watching and being alert because if not, I easily lose myself in stories about my worth as a human being.

The more that I do this and the more I’m able to remain present to the moment, the more I realize that there is no way to add something to me that could make me happier, I cannot do anything or acquire anything to make myself a winner for ever.

If for example I sleep with a hot girl, it might feel good for a moment, I now also have a story, a story of me sleeping with a hot girl, and this validates my worth as a human being, like hey check it out, that hot girl over there, I banged her, that’s right, I’m cool, I’m a winner, so I can tell myself that and I can tell others about that, but it’s only a story, the event has pass, the moment of me sleeping with that girl has pass, now is just a story, I can tell the story, but is just a thought, a thought that my ego is trying to grab to for it to feel better.

But in reality all I have is the
present moment, and in the present moment I can think about that story or I can think about other story.

So yeah is a much better idea to tell yourself the story of look at me I’m fucking cool, I’m awesome, because that gives you a little rush of energy and makes you feel better about yourself.

But at some point you have to recognize that is not something that you can grab on forever, at some point you have to let go of all the stories, no more thoughts, no more trying to find yourself in stories, you won’t find yourself there, you can’t, that’s why they say that the ego is an illusion, because is just made up of a whole bunch or thoughts, and to keep it going you have to be perpetually thinking.

Once you start to see how the ego operates is like the beginning of the end, because now you sometimes catch yourself telling yourself this stories, and then you are like oooohhhh, I’m telling myself a story, that is not really real, and then the thought pattern stops, and you are still, you are present, with no thought, and then you look around and you realize that you are not the fucking story.

But like I said I’m not enlightened so I keep getting trapped in this process.

I still want to win, I still have things that I want to do just to be able to go look at shit, yeah I’m a winner, but now my main focus is in the present moment, whenever I’m doing something, for example writing this post right now, part of my intention in writing this is to build my blog, to make more money, by the way making money blogging is so freaking cool, is something that I really wanted, I wanted to tell the story that I’m a blogger, the same thing with Youtube, but I know that’s a story.

I know that that’s not the thing that is going to make me happy, although in this particular case in has a lot of pros, because it builds a source of passive income that results in more free time and more money in the future to be able to do whatever I want.

But my main focus is in enjoying the process, that’s why I’m doing this, I’m doing this because I like doing this, I want to do this, I like to write about the topics that I’m writing about, so that’s why I do it in the first place, and of course this wouldn’t work without you, so I focus on delivering massive value, and also guide my decisions on the feedback I receive.

Whenever I’m writing I first take some deep breaths, I look around, and if my mind is too crazy, if I notice all I want is to get to the future, I usually stop and meditate for a while, I focus on feeling my body the sensations, the energy, and I try to stay with that energy, and then I proceed with the work at hand, now sometimes I cannot snap out of it, so I’m like fuck it, and I power trough or other times I’m like fuck this I don’t want to do anything now, life sucks and I just stop and go and do something else. It depends.

I know where I’m going; I’ve been in that place before that place of presence.

So what stories are you telling yourself, are you waiting to have something or be something to be able to tell yourself a story and then be happy, if you are, realize right now that is not going to work, you don’t have to wait, and if you are feeling incomplete or bad, is not because you don’t have or you are not something, is because you are trapped in ego, trapped in a story, and start recognizing it for what is just some thoughts in your head and then choose to become present, again and again bring yourself back to this present moment, and yeah keep taking massive action to build an awesome future, and fuck why not have a great story about all of the cool shit you did in this crazy simulation type reality called life.

See in you in the next one.

By the way are you still trapped in a JOB, and want to quit?

Then watch this awesome video here.

Gabe.